During the last couple of months I have been catching up with a lot of old acquaintances I haven’t spoken to since I left my home city in 2013.
Some are still in the same place with the same circle of friends, same job, same hobbies, same interests.
Others pursued their dreams, went abroad, worked / studied hard, met new people or simply tried to get more out of life than already had.
I am not the one to know what is good and what is wrong for someone. I am actually the last person one can ask for advice. People do what they want to do with their life and I don’t want to change anyone.
What’s interesting is that the people that evolved the most among my old acquaintances are the ones that cared the least about what others think.
They didn’t listen to their family when they were told to stay close because they’d have everything they need (car / house / food / money). Parents usually want the best for their children, but they end up overprotecting them.
Thus, most teenagers become scared and weak adults, they are afraid to take risks and they end up wasting their talent.
That’s why most people spend their 20s discussing movies, songs and celebrities instead of working hard and failing. But again, I am not the one to know what’s best or worst for somebody. People do what they want to do.
The truth is that nobody cares.
I used to think that others care and they’ll see me failing and they’ll laugh.
I know most feel the same.
We are at the center of our own world.
However, we are not at the center of other people’s worlds.
Enter “the spotlight effect”:
= the phenomenon in which people tend to believe they are being noticed more than they really are. Being that one is constantly in the center of one’s own world, an accurate evaluation of how much one is noticed by others has shown to be uncommon. (more info here)
I learned a few things during these last couple of months. What I haven’t learned yet is that nobody cares. But I’m on my way.
“Just do what you want to do, focus, adapt and remain committed.”
As I’m going back to Copenhagen, I am pumped up about what the future will bring and I think the best is yet to come.